Biblical dating guidelines
That's what I hope this column will be about — applying God's Word to the topic of dating, finding a spouse, and getting married. After this column, you have my word that I'll spend the next several months answering your questions (that is, when I have answers). I have to start by explaining the theological doctrine that drives the approach I want to outline (and advocate).That doctrine is called the sufficiency of Scripture.Roxanne: What is your definition of biblical courtship?Rowina: Different people define biblical courtship in different ways.by Scott Croft If you're reading this, you're interested in dating. In our society, dating has become something of an obsession. It's just something you do if you're single and of age (and that age is quickly dropping) in America. In fact, depending on which statistics one believes, the divorce rate for professing Christians may actually be higher than for Americans as a whole.You've done it, you're doing it, you'd like to do it, or you need to teach somebody else how to do it. It is considered the natural precursor to marriage, and is generally considered something to be desired, whatever form it might take. If you were to Google the word "matchmaker," you would receive something in the neighborhood of 12,100,000 responses — with a few of these outfits claiming to be Christian, but most making no such claim. As evangelical Christians, we're called to be distinct in the ways we think and act about all issues that confront us and those around us. Granted, not all of these people are evangelicals, but we're not doing so well either.She has recently been married and I found myself extremely blessed by the insight she gave into her experiences and her standpoint on how believers should participate in courtship in a biblical manner, beautifully validated by particular Scriptures.
In my dealings with the topic biblical courtship, I have found that, to my disappointment and often discouragement, there seems to be a lot of opinion but regrettably, a real lack of clarity.
“Sex is meant to be enjoyed between the boundaries of marriage,” Keilah says. “You are not their Saviour, Jesus Christ is,” she warns.
Keilah quite correctly says that God is not wanting to prevent you from having fun by giving Biblical guidelines guidelines for Christian dating.
The man treats the woman as a sister in all purity.
According to Keilah the most important thing you should do when dating according to the Bible is to set guidelines. Guidelines help you to avoid all kinds of evils including pregnancy and sexual transmitted diseases. One clear guideline Keilah mentions is that of avoiding having a relationship with an non-christian. Interestingly she mentions that this applies to people of other churches. I am sure that people of other churches believe in God too, so why should they be classed as non-datable as non-Christians? If you are lonely, Keilay reminds you that you have a never failing friend – God, who will never forsake you.